How to Reflect Without Judging Yourself

Why reflection often turns into self-criticism

Reflection is meant to be a tool for learning — a way to pause, look back, and understand what happened so you can move forward with more clarity. But for many of us, reflection quickly morphs into a self-judgement session.

Instead of thinking, What can I learn from this? we think, I should have known better.
Instead of noticing what worked, we zero in on what went wrong.

It’s not that we mean to be unkind to ourselves — it’s that we’ve been taught to see mistakes as proof of inadequacy rather than opportunities for growth.

But here’s the truth: you can reflect without tearing yourself down. In fact, you’ll learn more — and grow faster — when you take judgement out of the process.

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